“ It is sadder to find the past again and find it inadequate to the present than it is to have it elude you and remain forever a harmonious conception of memory. ” — F. Scott Fitzgerald (via Forbes)
Sorry, F., but not hardly true. The lying past is not a friendly haunting, but an old, bitter harridan wanting to play the ingenue just one more time, forever. Kill the bitch.
It's not about a person, it's about the past. Your own or any other. If its a lie, then let it go completely and don't waste time regretting the loss of what never was. People waste too much time on nostalgia, most frequently for a past they never knew. Fitzgerald's "harmonious conception of memory" is a dream, but it is the sadness in grieving for its loss that is so seductive. Let it go. It never loved you, it only wants to live off you. Let it go.