"Identity foreclosure is a psychological term for the phenomenon in which
a person makes premature conclusions about his or her personal identity
without a time of exploration and discovery. Identity foreclosure
happens when a person adopts the identity of others around them or is
forced to accept the identity expectations assumed or given to them."
"I began getting to know myself—like one might get to know a new friend. I started asking myself questions. What do you like to do? What are you good at? What are your dreams? What makes you tick? What are some things you have always secretly wanted to try? If there was nothing holding you back, who would you choose to be?"
That post is also about a doctrine circulating in Christian circles that posits that women have a dependent position to men within the church called Complimentarianism - women "complement" the primary role men have as ministers within the church. No matter what view you have about religion or the role of women within Christianity, if God exists and has revealed Himself to humanity, then it is very important to know Him and His view about who we are as clearly as we can. If you are a Christian, understanding Him is your daily meat and potatoes (metaphorically speaking) because the whole of your spiritual strength comes from standing under Him, and Him alone - not your own reasoning or anyone else's.
Don't ever be afraid of learning more about His way of identifying you for He made you from the very beginning. It isn't as if He is some outsider trying to barge in and change the good thing you have going on. Whether you are a man
or a woman, rich or poor, modern or traditional, young or graying middle
age, none of these things matter in Christ. His call is not to your
gender, sexuality, age, influence, or fame. Jesus' call is to the
person you are inside of that frail human frame, and He wants to light
you up inside brighter and livelier and more creative and joyful than
anything you've ever seen anywhere.